Blended Family Talk

As if being the new member in a blended family isn’t hard enough, it’s all the more difficult if the kids tend to like a lot or be sneaky about a lot of things. My significant other’s daughter tends to lie a lot.  He remains in denial because I’m sure he feels guilt about not being able to be with his kids full time anymore, but I don’t feel he is doing her a service by letting her get away with lying all the time.  I feel it teaches her to be dishonest.  She is so used to getting away with it because of the lack of comminication between her mom and dad.  However, we saw proof of how much damage she could cause this summer with all the lying and sneakiness.

I simply don’t tolerate it.  I call her on it each and everytime she does it. I explained to her that she is cheating herself of good relationships with other people with all of the lying. It makes her a nontrustworthy person.  I don’t know if the talk will sink in just hope, but I want it to be clear to her that she cannot disrupt our household by causing silly dram and lying all the time.  Luckily, my mate is very open with me and we are currently working on making our family bonds stronger than ever.  The kids will just have to get with the program.