Dealing with teen daughter in blended family
Here’s a letter that we received recently:
Okay, so we saw my boyfriends teenage daughter yesterday. Of course, she barely opened her mouth to speak to her father or me. When he went in to hug her, she backed off of him like he had the plague. I know it breaks his heart everytime she acts like that. We were visting his mom for her birthday so I was a little shocked to see her at his mom’s house.
A little backstory to the drama. We had all went out of town last weekend to his sister’s house and the daughter wanted to stay with her aunt and cousins a little longer. That’s fine, except it means that someone will have to pick her up eventually to take her back to her mom’s. To my understanding, this isn’t something that the biological mom would care to do, so my boyfriend told her, ‘not this time’. He is overloaded at work during the week and had just taken everyone out of town for the weekend, plus she just got off of punishment for other drama. The teen daughter then called her mom to ask for permission to stay until Wednesday, with her assurance that she would pick her up on Wed. My BF was pissed because his daughter went behind his back of course. When we all getting ready to leave, she was just sitting there on the sofa with this defiant look on her face, and I knew she has pulled another fast one on him. To make a long story short, that is why we were shocked to still see her with them on Thursday, when she was supposed to have been picked up a day ago. Anyway, this is just a mild version of the sneakiness that we deal with on his daughter’s end on a regular basis. I’m sure I’ll be back to vent some more on her shenannigans to keep my sanity.
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